The Lord knows your hurt. He knows your fears. He knows your shortcomings. All the things you've tried so hard to keep hidden...he knows that, too. The people you call friends may have judged you for one or more of the things in your past. They may look at you with judgment when you try to align yourself with God. What overpowers all is grace. Grace is enough to lift you up and give you life, removing you from Sheol, the place of the dead. Grace is enough to restore and allow you to experience a life of purity despite the amount of promiscuity in your yesterday. Grace is enough to restore relationships that have been broken and bring new life to relationships that start off on the wrong foot. You're worthy of receiving life and grace because the flawless son of God who died for you carried every shortcoming and transgression, every sin, and left it to die on the cross. He's paid the price for everything you've done wrong and everything you'll ever do wrong in the future. Take a goal-inventory of the things in your life that you're pursuing, right now. Do you strive more for praise from friends or approval from the one who longs to give you hope and a future? Do you pursue money more than you pursue peace? Do you pursue a promotion more than you pursue the comfort of having a secure and stable relationship with the ones you love?
God is the giver of life. He allows U-turns and he will embrace you where you are. There is no amount of wrong that you can do that will make him reject you and say you're not enough, because Jesus, the sinless, blameless, Holy son of God came to earth and died. He is enough to cover the wrongs of your yesterday, your today and your tomorrow. The question is whether or not you will let him. Will you give him your hurt, your fear, your pain and your transgressions? Will you give him your emptiness and trade it in for wholeness and redemption? Will you trade in your addiction for the peace that's found only in the presence of the Holy Spirit?
When others tell you you're too far gone to save, let them know Jesus disagrees. When others tell you you've done too much to be forgiven, let them know Jesus disagrees. When people tell you you're bound for brokenness and hurt, you can say to them, "Jesus and his grace are enough for me."
Survivor after survivor that I speak or work with spend so much of their initial healing trying to understand what they did wrong to have 'caused' their rape or sexual assault. If you are a survivor and you're trying to figure out what you did wrong, or what you did to have contributed, even partially, to the assault or abuse you've experienced, this is for you---it wasn't you. It was never you. It was never anything you did or what you wore. If the person who committed this act hadn't have been there, would the same have happened? No. Because it is the perpetrator who takes fault, not the victim/survivor.
Author: GEONY RUCKER
Geony Rucker is an author, sexual violence educator, advocate and a surrendered sinner. After experiencing rape as an 18-year-old Freshman in college, she went down a destructive path of unhealthy coping. She openly discusses the broken parts of her past, including drug use, promiscuity and recklessness. Her commitment to help others heal from trauma and hurt is what drove her to develop Value Unconditional. She wants survivors to know their value isn't based on experiences or achievements--their value is unconditional. God is fully able to restore, redeem and heal.